IMHO: Nah - forget sex in this context (unless sex as advertised, promoted and described by the media and by classmates who are full of shit). If it is just about satisfying yourself, then jerking off would be the very best sex ever.
Don't you care about the person you are with? I went in bed with girls who knew all the routine - but I knew this wasn't just for me - it was a copy/paste job. No wonder I barfed so hard the next morning after a sleepless night and called it a day as soon as I could.
True and great sex is about when giving and taking becomes one. Too bad it doesn't work that way in real life.

It does that work that way, you just have to know exactly who you're getting into bed with and exactly what they want from you, don't jump into bed with someone who dosen't want anything more then a one night stand if not comfortable with that sort of thing.

...and it sounds like you're both writing a rom-com and you've arrived at the "complicate" portion of the plot.

TheRed actually crafts a fairly efficient three-act. For all the above offerings about what ideal sex might be, it distills down to those three base elements. All the rest is simply details of the plot, twists, turns etc...