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Over the past week, I've had feeling of sadness and anger; it almost feels like I want to get into a fight to express myself and relieve my anger. I reaaly haven't talked to may people over the past 4-5 weeks and I'm beginning to feel lonely.


Wed Mar 30, 2011 7:33 pm
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I know the feeling. Obviously, I don’t know that much about the situation, so it’s hard to think of advice that’s in any way specific, but counselling might be a good idea. It could help just to talk to someone with experience in dealing with this kind of thing, especially if you’re feeling lonely.

Other than that; I’ve always found channelling anger and frustration into exercise to be helpful, and it couldn’t hurt to go out and do something social if you’re feeling lonely. Try something new.


Wed Mar 30, 2011 9:48 pm
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corpen11 wrote:
Over the past week, I've had feeling of sadness and anger; it almost feels like I want to get into a fight to express myself and relieve my anger. I reaaly haven't talked to may people over the past 4-5 weeks and I'm beginning to feel lonely.

I live with parents and don't talk with friends from high school too often, so I know how you feel, the difference that most of the time it dosen't really bother me being alone, I actually kinda like being solitary. If you want to meet somebody new and aren't very good in social situations, i'd recommend you use AdultFriendFinder.


Wed Mar 30, 2011 10:36 pm
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corpen11 wrote:
Over the past week, I've had feeling of sadness and anger; it almost feels like I want to get into a fight to express myself and relieve my anger. I reaaly haven't talked to may people over the past 4-5 weeks and I'm beginning to feel lonely.
Assuming it's an option, I suggest you visit family and friends. I'm sure we're all lovely people here, but there's only so much that anonymous Internet people can do for one another.

We're social animals. Loneliness is not our default lifestyle.


Wed Mar 30, 2011 11:23 pm
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Ken wrote:
corpen11 wrote:
Over the past week, I've had feeling of sadness and anger; it almost feels like I want to get into a fight to express myself and relieve my anger. I reaaly haven't talked to may people over the past 4-5 weeks and I'm beginning to feel lonely.
Assuming it's an option, I suggest you visit family and friends. I'm sure we're all lovely people here, but there's only so much that anonymous Internet people can do for one another.

We're social animals. Loneliness is not our default lifestyle.

To piggyback on what Ken said, talk to anyone in real life, even if they don't know you. Every now and again, the kindness of strangers will surprise. Maybe you shouldn't do that actually. I wouldn't, but I'm afraid. I don't want to necessarily suggest something I wouldn't do myself.

Either way, get your feelings out. If there's something stopping you from getting your feelings out, remove the barrier. You don't want to keep everything trapped inside.


Wed Mar 30, 2011 11:41 pm
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Corpen11

I too know how you feel. I work at home on my own and one of the traps of this is the lack of human contact. Sure I talk to myself and my dog... but there's only so much he can tell me

I'm quite gregarious, so once a day i make the effort to go out and talk with people, anyone, I just say hi. Could be in a store, on a walk, whatever. I always feel good afterwards and ready to get back to work. I've laos made a real effort to get to know my neighbors. At first they seemed dull, but as i got to know them....

I wish you were more local and I'd drop in for a drink!

Stay positive!
Rob


Thu Mar 31, 2011 1:12 am
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Ken wrote:
Assuming it's an option, I suggest you visit family and friends. I'm sure we're all lovely people here, but there's only so much that anonymous Internet people can do for one another.

We're social animals. Loneliness is not our default lifestyle.


I would loove to visit my family, but I'm in college right now and I won't be leaving for home until May. My reasoning for feeling sad is that I feel that no one is willing to give me the time and attention that I would like. Today in my line dancing class, I was feeling angry and tense that no one, just like any other day, would talk to me; I grabbed one of the chair and set it on the middle of the dance floor. Any time someone would try to ask me why i'm in the middle, I would respond with body motions instead of my voice. This lead to my teacher having to call unversity police to escort me to a counselling office; I tried to reson with the officers and my teacher that nothing harmful was about to go down, but I had no choice. My teacher walked back to me in tears, fearful as if I was going to harm my classmates. that lead to me explaining my motives, then I bursted into tears due to putting fear into my teacher. The last three hours of my life was hectic, but necessary. I think that counselling would be kind to me.


Thu Mar 31, 2011 1:48 pm
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While I'm not a believer in abuse of drugs, I may suggest looking into anti-depressant medications like Wellbutrin and Cipralex. I have a friend who's suffered depression since suffering a permanent injury to his leg as a result of being struck by a car in his youth. Anti-depressant medication has helped him to lead a relatively normal life. People like Tom Cruise can yak about these medications being like narcotics, but they're being stupid when they do so.


Thu Mar 31, 2011 2:53 pm
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corpen11 wrote:
Ken wrote:
Assuming it's an option, I suggest you visit family and friends. I'm sure we're all lovely people here, but there's only so much that anonymous Internet people can do for one another.

We're social animals. Loneliness is not our default lifestyle.


I would loove to visit my family, but I'm in college right now and I won't be leaving for home until May. My reasoning for feeling sad is that I feel that no one is willing to give me the time and attention that I would like. Today in my line dancing class, I was feeling angry and tense that no one, just like any other day, would talk to me; I grabbed one of the chair and set it on the middle of the dance floor. Any time someone would try to ask me why i'm in the middle, I would respond with body motions instead of my voice. This lead to my teacher having to call unversity police to escort me to a counselling office; I tried to reson with the officers and my teacher that nothing harmful was about to go down, but I had no choice. My teacher walked back to me in tears, fearful as if I was going to harm my classmates. that lead to me explaining my motives, then I bursted into tears due to putting fear into my teacher. The last three hours of my life was hectic, but necessary. I think that counselling would be kind to me.



Corpen11

I would strongly encourage you to get real help. There's no shame in being helped!
We can be supportive, but that's all.
I would be honest with the counsellor and ask for help.
You'll be amazed at the difference talking with someone can make.
One of the issues wit having problems is internalizing them and losing perspective.

I really wish you well. Know that people here do care.
Rob


Thu Mar 31, 2011 3:09 pm
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Robert Holloway wrote:
corpen11 wrote:
Ken wrote:
Assuming it's an option, I suggest you visit family and friends. I'm sure we're all lovely people here, but there's only so much that anonymous Internet people can do for one another.

We're social animals. Loneliness is not our default lifestyle.


I would loove to visit my family, but I'm in college right now and I won't be leaving for home until May. My reasoning for feeling sad is that I feel that no one is willing to give me the time and attention that I would like. Today in my line dancing class, I was feeling angry and tense that no one, just like any other day, would talk to me; I grabbed one of the chair and set it on the middle of the dance floor. Any time someone would try to ask me why i'm in the middle, I would respond with body motions instead of my voice. This lead to my teacher having to call unversity police to escort me to a counselling office; I tried to reson with the officers and my teacher that nothing harmful was about to go down, but I had no choice. My teacher walked back to me in tears, fearful as if I was going to harm my classmates. that lead to me explaining my motives, then I bursted into tears due to putting fear into my teacher. The last three hours of my life was hectic, but necessary. I think that counselling would be kind to me.



Corpen11

I would strongly encourage you to get real help. There's no shame in being helped!
We can be supportive, but that's all.
I would be honest with the counsellor and ask for help.
You'll be amazed at the difference talking with someone can make.
One of the issues wit having problems is internalizing them and losing perspective.

I really wish you well. Know that people here do care.
Rob


I'd like to echo these comments from Rob. Like he, and Ken, have said, the guys on the forum aren't going to be enough interaction for anyone. As engaging, enlightening, and informative interaction on here can be, nothing can replace face-to-face human interaction. Doing what you did in your classes isn't going to help a whole lot either. Even though the reasons make sense to you, and to us (me at least) when you explain them, that's the kind of thing that's going to scare people and drive them away faster. The best course of action is probably to see someone just to talk with. It doesn't necessarily have to be a therapist, but it wouldn't hurt either. Give your parents a call, tell them what's going on and what's bothering you, and try to find someone who will take the time to hear you out.

Keep us updated on what's happening and how things go. Like Rob said, your fellow Reelviewers care and want to see you in better spirits.


Thu Mar 31, 2011 3:35 pm
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AJR wrote:
I know the feeling. Obviously, I don’t know that much about the situation, so it’s hard to think of advice that’s in any way specific, but counselling might be a good idea. It could help just to talk to someone with experience in dealing with this kind of thing, especially if you’re feeling lonely.

Other than that; I’ve always found channelling anger and frustration into exercise to be helpful, and it couldn’t hurt to go out and do something social if you’re feeling lonely. Try something new.


I think AJR's advice is sound, Corey. Especially that bit about exercise. Working up a good sweat is a great way to improve your mood. And you say you want to get into fights? See if there's a punching bag around on your campus gym. Beat the shit out of it.

And yeah, talk it out with someone. Personally, I think meds are a bad idea. Have a talk with someone who can't prescribe them. Try a psychologist.

Vexer wrote:
I live with parents and don't talk with friends from high school too often, so I know how you feel, the difference that most of the time it dosen't really bother me being alone, I actually kinda like being solitary. If you want to meet somebody new and aren't very good in social situations, i'd recommend you use AdultFriendFinder.


Now Vex's advice was well-intentioned and I don't want to be mean-spirited when Corey is down, but did anyone else find the AdultFriendFinder advice to be completely hilarious. Reelviews, I laughed and then I laughed some more. Vexey, you might as well tell the guy to get a hooker and be done with it.


Thu Mar 31, 2011 3:51 pm
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ed_metal_head wrote:
AJR wrote:
I know the feeling. Obviously, I don’t know that much about the situation, so it’s hard to think of advice that’s in any way specific, but counselling might be a good idea. It could help just to talk to someone with experience in dealing with this kind of thing, especially if you’re feeling lonely.

Other than that; I’ve always found channelling anger and frustration into exercise to be helpful, and it couldn’t hurt to go out and do something social if you’re feeling lonely. Try something new.


I think AJR's advice is sound, Corey. Especially that bit about exercise. Working up a good sweat is a great way to improve your mood. And you say you want to get into fights? See if there's a punching bag around on your campus gym. Beat the shit out of it.

And yeah, talk it out with someone. Personally, I think meds are a bad idea. Have a talk with someone who can't prescribe them. Try a psychologist.

Vexer wrote:
I live with parents and don't talk with friends from high school too often, so I know how you feel, the difference that most of the time it dosen't really bother me being alone, I actually kinda like being solitary. If you want to meet somebody new and aren't very good in social situations, i'd recommend you use AdultFriendFinder.


Now Vex's advice was well-intentioned and I don't want to be mean-spirited when Corey is down, but did anyone else find the AdultFriendFinder advice to be completely hilarious. Reelviews, I laughed and then I laughed some more. Vexey, you might as well tell the guy to get a hooker and be done with it.
Don't let the name of the website fool you, not everyone you meet on there is looking for sex, some are just looking for other people to hang out with in general and aren't interested in any sexual activity whatsoever.


Thu Mar 31, 2011 4:27 pm
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Vexer wrote:
i'd recommend you use AdultFriendFinder.


I wouldn't suggest this unless you enjoy being raped and/or murdered...

corpen, I'd suggest doing the thing you love most, while networking to make friends with people who have similar interest. For example, (poor example but it work lol) if you love to bowl, I'd tell you to go join a bowling league, or something.

Also, weed helps.


Thu Mar 31, 2011 4:31 pm
Director

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All of this is really helpful. I'm meeting with a counselor tomorrow and I'll see to it that my emotions are in better control.
The next time i have class, I'm going to have to apoligaze and explain about the commotion today, that's going to be awkward.


Thu Mar 31, 2011 4:38 pm
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Timmy Shoes wrote:
Vexer wrote:
i'd recommend you use AdultFriendFinder.


I wouldn't suggest this unless you enjoy being raped and/or murdered...

corpen, I'd suggest doing the thing you love most, while networking to make friends with people who have similar interest. For example, (poor example but it work lol) if you love to bowl, I'd tell you to go join a bowling league, or something.

Also, weed helps.

So you're laughing at my suggestion yet you're encouraging him to use an illegal substance?! :? OK then :lol:


Thu Mar 31, 2011 4:42 pm
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Vexer wrote:
Timmy Shoes wrote:
Vexer wrote:
i'd recommend you use AdultFriendFinder.


I wouldn't suggest this unless you enjoy being raped and/or murdered...

corpen, I'd suggest doing the thing you love most, while networking to make friends with people who have similar interest. For example, (poor example but it work lol) if you love to bowl, I'd tell you to go join a bowling league, or something.

Also, weed helps.

So you're laughing at my suggestion yet you're encouraging him to use an illegal substance?! :? OK then :lol:


I could give my say about weed, but this post isn't about drugs and substances.


Thu Mar 31, 2011 5:19 pm
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Vexer wrote:
So you're laughing at my suggestion yet you're encouraging him to use an illegal substance?! :? OK then :lol:


The music in your ipod is illegal too, bro. Slavery used to be legal, gays still can't marry. Just because it's the law doesn't make it right. That's asides the point though, your suggestion is actually infinitely more risky than mine. There's very little chance of getting butt raped by a psychopath because of smoking a joint.

I also agree with seeking out professional help. I know there's a stigma around it, but we're all fucked up and could probably benefit from a little therapy. There's no shame in it; in fact, I'd say the person who has the fortitude to admit that they might need counseling is the stronger person when compared to someone who thinks they can figure everything out on their own and are too good for counseling.


Thu Mar 31, 2011 5:38 pm
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Timmy Shoes wrote:
Vexer wrote:
So you're laughing at my suggestion yet you're encouraging him to use an illegal substance?! :? OK then :lol:


The music in your ipod is illegal too, bro. Slavery used to be legal, gays still can't marry. Just because it's the law doesn't make it right. That's asides the point though, your suggestion is actually infinitely more risky than mine. There's very little chance of getting butt raped by a psychopath because of smoking a joint.

I also agree with seeking out professional help. I know there's a stigma around it, but we're all fucked up and could probably benefit from a little therapy. There's no shame in it; in fact, I'd say the person who has the fortitude to admit that they might need counseling is the stronger person when compared to someone who thinks they can figure everything out on their own and are too good for counseling.

Yeah, asusme EVERYONE you meet online is a rapist, that makes LOTS of sense :roll:


Thu Mar 31, 2011 6:26 pm
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If you're going to try to make friends online, I'd suggest meetup.com, since it's better suited to that kind of thing. I know I've had success meeting people with similar interests through that. I'm sure you can make friends through Adult Friend Finder, but uh... I don't think that's what the site's mainly used for.

Timmy's posts seem a little crazy and rambling though...


Thu Mar 31, 2011 7:47 pm
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AJR wrote:
If you're going to try to make friends online, I'd suggest meetup.com, since it's better suited to that kind of thing. I know I've had success meeting people with similar interests through that. I'm sure you can make friends through Adult Friend Finder, but uh... I don't think that's what the site's mainly used for.

Timmy's posts seem a little crazy and rambling though...

Yeah come to think of it, that's better then my idea, don't know what's up with Timmy though, wonder if he's had bad experiences with people online.


Thu Mar 31, 2011 7:57 pm
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